Lesbian Exclusive Exchange

Despite your lovely locks, sexy smile and best come on, you are destined to experience a dry spell at some point. Perhaps there aren't that many single ladies in your neck of the woods or maybe the bevy of lesbian beauties have proved immune to your wile charms. Perhaps, you're just plain unlucky. Don't fret! Help is on the way;)
These timely tips simply require that you be proactive and try a few different approaches and techniques.
Change of Scenery
Us lesbos all have our favorite nightclubs and bars. We go to these places and expect to find available women. Well, even the most popular lesbian haunts experience dry spells and dead nights. It may be temporary, but it's a good time to seek out a few new spots. There are always other options. Check out our Social Event Calendar for instance:)There are bound to be hot spots you’ve never visited where you can find many a new faces. Even consider going out of town for a few days (with or without friends) to try several new places in a single weekend.There’s no telling what adventures you might have in a new city.
Go Outside the Box
We all have our personal preferences but when a dry spell hits, consider going for girls outside your typically type. This goes beyond targeting brunettes if you’re typically into blondes. You should also broaden your requirements for body shape and personality. Maybe you’ve always had a thing for curvy girls, and the smaller more petite ladies don't bleep on your radar. Maybe you’ve always gone after more aggressive girls (they don’t require much patience or effort, after all). Go ahead, approach that quiet, slender girl in the group who keeps glancing in your direction. See what happens:)
New Opening
It’s not about different opening lines because we don't suggest you use “lines.” However, we do suggest employing an array of techniques and styles to get a woman's interest. When things go flat, you have to choose another skill in your repertoire or -- horror of horrors -- take the time to develop new strategies. If you usually initiate an encounter with a small compliment, eye contact and the offer of a drink, try being more inventive. Start off with a solid conversation-starter question. Remember, if you have a catalog of available approaches, it allows you to smoothly switch on the fly. Don’t forget about your attitude, tone and manner. These can significantly alter an approach. For more advice on approaching, read Girl Meets Girl:)
Freshen your Look
Yes, it can be difficult to stay up-to-date with the latest lesbian fashion, especially if your "look" has worked well in the past. But when you do the math and realize that you’ve not had sex for 3 months, well you start to question your appeal. Think about trying a new hairstyle or color, buying a few new clothing items or altering your make up routine. If you’ve been sporting casual bedhead hair, you could sleek and smooth it for a night. If you always wear dark, smoky eye make up, try something fresh & light for an evening. There are plenty of ways to present yourself differently, so spend some extra time in the mirror before you get ready to go out!

Melissa Etheridge filed legal documents in LA on Friday to formally end her domestic partnership with Tammy Lynn Michaels after 9 years together.In the Petition for Dissolution of Domestic Partnership, Etheridge cites "irreconcilable differences" and has requested joint custody of their 3-year-old twins. Unfortunately for Tammy, Melissa has asked that the court NOT award financial support to Tammy, which is quite disappointing as Tammy appears to be the main caregiver of the twins.
Tammy responded via her blog, hollywood farm girl, the very next day:

gentle waves
no noise for awhile
or maybe gentle voices
and
SMACK!!!!!!!!!!!!
FILE FOR DIVORCE!!!!!!
even though we both promised
agreed
handshook
pinkyswore
no filing until after tour
in the fall
her broken promises
told to me by
headlines
i'm raising the kids
doing what i can
second set of yours
could you stop blind sighting me?
unless it's another art form you're working on?

Tammy also says she doesn't have a "steady paycheck" coming in and she's been left penniless by Melissa. Tammy writes:
i gave up my managers, agents, contacts, all that good stuff, because i stepped directly into potty training a small boy, and carrying around a small girl on my hip. both excellent souls. and i was a very huge part in raising them for many many years while She with the Guitar focused on her Guitar.
 i was always the house wife after that. the only thing i hated about it was not bringing in money- i have made my own money since i started babysitting at 10, and having a newspaper route at 11. having no steady paycheck killed me for those years with her. and now it's really killing me. the other week i had to borrow money from a friend. two weeks ago i had to scrape together $1.25 to pay for gas. i know she doesn't want to give me money. trust. i'm borrowing cash left and right from people to get through this summer, and feed my kids, with a stomach full of ulcers, thank you. no stress here.
how's that spiritual tour coming along?
so now…. to open the lap top…. and read the headlines…. when i just spoke to the fame crawler yesterday…. she could have mentioned it….. and hmmm…. wants some custody of kids…. interesting…. but no $ support for me… interesting as well…. so so so interesting, there, melissa. practicing what we preach is always hard for americans, i think. (is that why you and rick warren got along so well? ) oh, the nights of promises….'tammy, if i ever leave you, it's because i'm crazy, and you have to come find me and get me and save me!!! we have to be together forever!' (remember that one, lucky?)
DOH!!
Come on, Melissa! For Fuck's Sake-She's the mother of your children!!!

Too much Real L Word drama in your relationship? Then you have to resist these deadly urges that are sure to ruin your otherwise healthy relationship.
Girl Spy
Maybe you think you're staying ahead of the curve by keeping constant surveillance of your girlfriend's Myspace, Facebook and Twitter accounts. But being aware of the minutiae of her everyday world shows a lack of trust, and will more than likely lead to over analysis and perhaps even boredom. It really does more harm than good. Besides, it's borderline stalker behavior.
I Lie
Lying to your partner for any reason does not make for a successful future together. It's really simple stupid-just don’t do it.
Family Matters
No matter how you feel about her family, telling her how much they drive you nuts is bound to drive a wedge into your relationship. Even if she thinks her relatives are bananas, she doesn't want to hear you bash her blood. It’s best to hold your tongue with respect to her family.
Cat Fight
It's natural for all couples to have arguments, especially if you've been together a while. However, fights that become physical or regularly spill out into public are damaging and embarrassing relationship issues.
That Girl
Letting yourself go is not only bad for your health and self esteem, it sends a bad message to your partner. Gaining weight or not caring about the way you look, no matter the length of the relationship, shows you have stopped caring about yourself. Perhaps you don't care about the way she thinks you look either. Don't be that girl.
Make Over
Many women think they are helping when trying to make their partner over. It's fine to give your partner some tips or advice on make up or fashion or whatever, IF she asks for it. Don't try to get her to wear make up if she doesn't like it and don't buy her butchier clothes just because you love the butch in her. You may end up causing more problems for the relationship.
Avoid & Ignore
Everyone would like to think that they have the perfect relationship, but you don't! In your quest to avoid creating drama, you might be allowing things that upset you to go unsaid and to fester. If you do, you are doing yourself and your partner a great injustice. Good communication is crucial to a  happy, long-term relationship.