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While some of us girls may actually relish this day, others are probably perplexed as to what their gal expects. After all, Valentine's Day is when she's anticipating pampering and, like it or not, she may even be testing your interest in or love for her. Don't let the pressure get you spinnning. Along with the stress comes an opportunity to impress.
Skip It
Wrong: She might realize that it's a hyped-up holiday, but trust me that will not get you off the hook. She'll see her friends going out & getting gifts and wonder why you aren't showing your stuff.
Right: You can keep it low-key & celebrate it in your own way. Plan an activity that you both can enjoy & declare it your own celesbration -- go hiking or paint balling, whatever she's into.
On V Day or No Way
Wrong: Since when did you follow the rules anyway? That's what I thought:)
Right: Pick another day in the week to plan your date. Whatever works for both of you. Places will be less crowded & you won't feel like another sheep in the herd. She won't care when you celebrate as long as she sees you've put some thought & effort into it.
Budget= No Love
Wrong: Saving money? Consider this a perfect opportunity to show your creativity.
Right: Don't plan an expensive date, but do surprise her with an inexpensive & thoughtful gift or activity. Plan to meet her for lunch & pack her favorite food in a picnic basket. She'll be impressed that you stuck to a budge while still making her feel special.
New is a NoNo
Wrong: You might not want to do anything overly romantic with a new girlfriend, but that doesn't mean you have to ignore it. If you don't acknowledge her at all, she might wonder if you are truly interested in her.
Right: Think of a fun activity. Try scheduling in a dance class or a cooking class or go to the batting cages to mix things up. Don't take it too seriously. Just enjoy being together.
Dinner is a Must Do
Wrong: Booooring! zzzzz ZZZZZZ
 Right: With as much effort as it takes to make dinner reservations, you can plan a different date. Book a couple's massage, jump into the tub, look for an old-fashioned roller-skating rink nearby, or try an artsy date by going to a museum or checking out a comedy show.
Chocolate & Flowers
Wrong: Predictable & BORING! 2 strikes girlfriend.
Right: Originality goes a long way, especially when all of her friends will be getting the usual. Stand out by getting her something out of the ordinary. Does she like travel? Get her a travel magazine subscription. Does she dig music? Get her concert tickets. You get the picture.
Bucco Dinero
Wrong:  Whoever spends the most, cares the most.
Right: Try getting her a small gift with big meaning. If you are just starting to get serious, for example, buy her a pair of slippers or a robe with a toothbrush in the pocket to keep at your place;)
No Strings Attached
Wrong: While Valentine's Day is usually marketed as "her" holiday, there's no rule stating you can't surprise your butch with something. So, get out there and buy your butch some bling.
Right: If the whole guessing game about whether you're getting a gift is gnawing at you, approach the subject with her or consider a no gift exchange. Make plans together for a romantic weekend getaway or a perfect night out instead.
Cheese Please
Wrong: There is nothing that says you have to write her poems or sing her a song especially if you're no good at it.
Right: If you're not comfortable with cheesiness, forget it. Stick to getting her a fun gift. Maybe a entertaining board game or a CD... and play it together.
Lingerie is Queen
Wrong: Lingerie can be a sexy gift for a femme, if you know her size & style preferences. But usually, she'll like that to be part of the gift -- not all of it.
Right: Try coupling it with a book on massage techniques that you can learn together or a good lesbian porn flick the two of you can enjoy.

Let's face it, the first kiss holds a helluva lot of importance for us. In fact, some women decide if they're going to sleep with you based simply on how that first lipsmack goes & well...all women want their girl to be a good kisser.
Don't make your first kiss your last!
Eager Beaver
Show some restraint when you go in for the first kiss. True, it may be difficult to assess whether or not she is welcoming a smooch. If you’re not sure, give her a clue. Let her know you had a great time, tell her she looks beautiful or lean in close enough for her to take the hint. However, be careful not to be too aloof or to pretend that you don’t care. You should sublty let her know you’re interested. If you wait for her to make a move without any indication that you are into it, you may be waiting for an eternity since some women are not comfortable with initiating. Try to strike a smooth balance between eager & aloof.
Ms. Time
The timing of the first kiss is essential. It shouldn’t be a surprise, so make sure to wait for the right moment. The right moment is not while she has food in her mouth, while there's an audience around or when she is riffling through her bag for her keys. Wait until she’s looking at you & paying attention before you move in for the kiss or things may get really awkward.
Cop-a-FeeL
Unless you've been giving the full speed ahead signal, you should keep your hands inside the vehicle at all times. Grabbing her ass or squeezing a breast is absolutely unacceptable & one of the fastest ways to get bitch slapped. If you want to touch her, cup her face gently with your hand or wrap your arms around her in an intimate hug. Consider erogenous zones a no-go for the time being.
Breath Offense
Hello, if your breath stinks, you won't even get close enough to her lips to attempt a kiss. Don’t go overboard on the breath fresheners either. Whipping out the breath spray as you walk her to her door is cheesy & presumptuous. Do take advantage of the after-dinner mint but don't have anything in your mouth when's it go time.
Drool is UncooL
When you pull away from the first kiss, your date should not have to wipe saliva, or any other substances for that matter, off of her face. Keep the drool under control & the heavy breathing too!

1. Gal with a Plan

Of course it’s important that you be able to have fun together, but it’s just as important that she knows who she is and where she is going. No matter how charming, if she is still struggling to find herself, it will get very old, very fast.

#2. You’re #1

Picture a brand new box of gourmet chocolates. Does she first offer it to you to pick the best piece? This is a metaphor for how she will treat you for the rest of your life.

3. Germs, what Germs?

You know a girl is really into you when she can't stay away, even when you're bedridden and green with snot. When you're sick with the flu she insists on coming over & taking care of you rather than keeping her distance.

4. We are Family

She not only asks about your family, she genuinely wants to hear about them. Interest in your family shows that she is thinking about you for the long term. She knows that being with you means understanding and accepting your relatives too.

5. Friend Friendly

In the beginning of your relationship, does your girl show an interest in meeting your crew? Does she follow it up with a plan, like hosting a low-key dinner party? This shows she knows friends are an important part of your life. Also, her knowing them makes her more involved with you, so initiating it herself shows commitment.

6. Go Team U

When your girl calls your mom to tell her about your promotion before you do, that should tell you something. A woman who is supportive of you & your goals doesn't feel threatened by your success and therefore toots your horn to anyone that will listen.

7. Sweat the little things

Does your woman really listen to you? You know she does if you tell her you have a big scary work meeting and the next time you talk she asks how it went. Or if you tell her you left your fav lip gloss at her house and she remembers it on your next date. Following up on even the little things you say to her means she truly cares about you.

8. Happy = Happy

This is the girl who goes to a chick flick with you on Friday night when she prefers an action film --  and not because she actually wants to, but because it makes you happy. Vis a vis, she’s happy when you’re happy.

9. Bring out the Best

This is a woman who makes you feel like the sexiest and smartest woman alive. She insists you can do anything that you put your mind to. Remember, it's not just about how you feel about her but also about how she makes you feel about yourself.