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Us girls were taught "If you can't say anything nice, keep your mouth shut." Fuck that shit;) Girl, you have got to learn to talk dirty. It's an art form that does wonders to get (or keep) that hottie in your bed. Oh, so now you want to... but don’t have any clue where to start? Don’t fret my pet, it's not that hard to learn. And don't concern yourself with the subsequent hysterics you’ll trigger when she tells her friends about your goofs.YES, there may be gaffs & giggles, but humor is good for relationships too.
Dip the Toes
Communication is key to good sex. We should all know this by now, yet we still don’t practice it half as much as we should. The first step to introducing something new into the bedroom is to test it in casual conversation. Ask something like: “Have you ever talked dirty before?" This gets the idea into her head and she’ll ponder it after you mention it. She may even discuss it with her friends to see what they think. It is possible that she will flatly refuse to entertain the idea. In which case, it’s best to drop it like a lead weight. If she's that uncomfortable, she is not likely to change her mind anytime soon and any attempts will probably turn her off. Talking about what we want in bed can be difficult. Requests can be misconstrued as “you are not good enough,” when in reality, they are essential to healthy sexuality. Statistics say a whopping 80% of our sex lives takes place in between our ears. So, talking dirty can be a headboard-busting turn-on for both partners.

There are three aspects of successfully integrating dirty talk into sex play. The first is content. It’s supposed to turn her on, not make her cringe or burst out laughing. The second is delivery: tone, volume and proper warm up are all important. The third is to avoid being rude or crude so you don't get bitch slapped. Here’s a tip: Don’t mention her sister.
 
Dirty Dos
Read
Erotica can be incredibly stimulating and is a fantastic way to spend an hour, whether it leads to sex or not. There are good lesbian erotic writers around, but finding something she will like can be a challenge. Find something that's not trashy, it's less likely to offend. In reading to her, practice your sexy voice.  
Swear
Dirty words are definitely a part of lesbian culture.Swearing can be hot when talking dirty in bed. The very words: pussy, cum, squirt spur on the raw purity sex acts. It can also bring out another side of us. If your girl is sweet and polite by nature, expressing her dirty side in bed can be a real buzz for both of you.  
Speak
English is not the most romantic language on earth. French, Italian or Portuguese sounds so much better. Having words spoken to you in a foreign tongue during sex can be a beautiful thing. Learn to say simple phrases like, I love you and I want you and I want to fuck you and incorporate these into your dirty talk language.
Dirty Dont's
Don't do friends or family
References to her family or yours are strictly out of bounds. Don’t mention anything about her super-sexy friend either or she'll pull those panties up promptly.
Don't do other women
Don’t bring up the topic of other women unless she specifically requests it, otherwise it could make her feel insecure. Insecurity is not an aphrodisiac. However, it is quite possible that your partner may want to hear you talking filth about another woman. It may turn her on to know that other women want you and that you want them. Be sure before you venture there.
Don't do clinical or childish
Clinical terms will sweep the sexy right out of the moment. Saying your vagina is lubricating seriously kills the moment with images of the gynos office.  This applies to all parts of the anatomy, with the possible exception of the term breasts.Try something like, "my pussy is wet for you" instead. Immature terms are a turn off too.  The words “boobies” or ”jugs;” are simply not sexy.
Time to Deliver
Voice Choice
What is sexy to you? Low & deep... a breathy whisper? Your normal talking voice or a new persona? Play around with a few and choose one you like that feels comfortable, not forced. The benefit of having a special dirty talk voice is that when you are on the phone with her and you use your sexy voice, she will associate that voice with (hopefully) raunchy, exciting sex. 
Warm Up Drill
First, make sure you are both in the mood. It is easiest to start talking dirty when you are actually having sex. Usually, you will both need to be somewhat turned on for it to work, so no skipping foreplay. Whisper a couple of things in her ear and see how she responds, just to test the waters.  
Start Your/Her Engine
A good way to start is by simply talking about what you are doing and how good it feels, but don’t drown on about it. A play by play of the action can be a turn off. Just say a few things, like: “Your skin feels so good” or “I love when you play with my nipples.” Also, keep in mind that some women can get self-conscious when comments about their body are made during sex.  This dialogue has other benefits too. She’ll get to learn more about what you like during sex and it will encourage her to speak up too. 
  Repertoire 101
Be creative and vary your dirty talk; nobody likes a broken record. Practice at it. Once you are more confident that she's into it you can get her to join in -- you may just find her cursing back at you.
Review
Save the analysis for later. Discuss it when you’re fully clothed and watching TV or making dinner. This way, there is far less risk of damaging egos. You can talk about which parts you both liked or didn't and why. Keep the discussion lighthearted and fun. Remember, anxiety or fear may manifest themselves into laughter. Talk like adults, be honest and encourage each other.

Sure, your sex life might be pretty good but why not make it great! Read these fast and easy tips to get your sex life in gear and get your girl going.
No.1 - New Heights
To increase her chances of orgasm when your inside her, use the right positions to hit her G while you simultaneously stimulate her clitoris with your other hand or a toy. The more O's, the better and this is an amazing one. Trust us;)
No.2 -  Oral FIXation
Many women rank oral sex as their favorite sexual act. So, get better at it!  Remember to keep your rhythm steady & check in with her about how much pressure to use & if she likes direct stim. Some of us are too sensitive to enjoy that. Try varying your technique by using the flat part of the middle of your tongue for a constant, softer & more encompassing way to stimulate her entire clit. Please don't utilize the same technique that you kiss her with to give oral to her other set of lips. Duh.
No.3 - Sexpert
In addition to her clit and G-spot, become familiar with all her other secret spots. The outer third of her vagina is filled with very sensitive & erotic points for stimulation. Be adventurous & have fun when trying to find them with your fingers. These spots are all about the size of a dime and exactly where they lie varies a tad bit for every woman. Your girl's erogenous zones are as unique as her, so explore her personal anatomy & become an expert about what turns her on.
No.4 - Compliments Complement
For some women, the thought of anyone looking at their pussy may be loaded with anxiety & fear. Even if you've been together for a long time, we women are always concerned with how we look, smell & taste. If you want to release her wild side, fill her with confidence about her body. Tell her often how beautiful she is and how wonderful she smells & tastes. This is especially important if she claims she doesn’t like getting oral. She may have had a previous lover who was insensitive, or too many crappy messages from childhood that prevent her from celebrating sex & her sexuality. Encourage her to see herself the way you do, as a gorgeous sex goddess, and she may just surprise you with mind blowing sex.
No.5 - Missing the Kissing
Kissing might just be the fastest and easiest way to turn her on and get her juices flowing. Our big tip: Don’t forget to kiss her when it’s most important to her- during sex. While certain positions can make kissing tricky, try to kiss her everywhere, especially on the mouth, during your sexual encounter.
No.6 - Breast Bully
We know they are your favorite toys and you may have even named them; but beware, all of her sensitive and erogenous spots become heightened and sometimes even painful when Aunt Flo visits. We know that when her breasts are fuller than usual they can be very inviting, but she may not even want them touched. Check in with her & fondle gently.Iit will make her feel loved as well as aroused.
No.7 -  Toy Joy
Many women have difficulty climaxing without the use of a toy or have stronger orgasms with them. Toys today are for everyone. If she's apprehensive, let her control the speed & pressure. She can sit on top of you, be facing toward you or away, to vary the spots in the vagina that are stimulated. You get to watch her bouncing on you while she does most of the work. Enjoy the show and tell her how sexy she is on top! Sexual stimulants like gels add a little fun and variety you can’t get naturally. Another tip: make sure that you have good quality lubes and toy cleaners to keep you safe and healthy.
No.9 - Porn Queen
New studies show that almost 30% of online porn viewers are female. Some women may prefer to use adult film as research. There are some great instructional DVDs out there that teach techniques including oral play, erotic massage and female ejaculation. They can provide an interesting approach to seduction on date night. Watch them together with the sound off, so you can get information and a turn-on at the same time. Research has never been so much fun;)
No.10 - Mutual Masturbation
An ideal alternative to the mundane is to have a night where you and you lover take turns pleasing yourselves. Sometimes, you just want it the way you want it! Light the candles & get out the lube. Apply some to each other then prop yourselves up on pillows so that you won’t miss a moment of the show! Lie close & kiss each other often, especially the neck and breasts so that you have body-to-body contact. We all have areas that are more sensitive than others, so watch where she touches herself and learn. You might even want to place your hand softly over hers as she touches herself to learn the right pressure. Offer to lend a hand or finger if she requests it. Internal stimulation at the same time may help her over the edge. Hot pillow talk to encourage each other is not a bad idea either.

Go get it girl!

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